There was a day when we played with Barbie dolls and put them through marriage- that was what made us happy. But once you actually get to live and go through the process of marriage, you realize that it’s filled with tons of stress and mixed emotions, and of course happiness! During spring break, I attended a wedding; not William and Kate’s, but in fact my sister’s wedding! The engagement was two summers ago, but it felt like it was just yesterday when they started dating! So as the months hurried by, I knew how stress got to her and I was able to help her through; for example, I was waking up early to finish errands and staying up late attempting to finish party favors and invitations. When the day came it was chaos waking up at five in the morning just to get ready for the ceremony. The wedding, however, was very nice; we had four families, two on each side and we stood in the church as one big family! It feels great to add another member to the family. First of all because he’s such a nice guy, I see him as a brother and he shows respect towards my sister as well as my family and me. Being in a relationship, specifically marriage is something very serious. Accepting someone as your spouse means that you are agreeing to spend the rest of your life with him/her. Anyhow, being the bridesmaid or more like the maid of honor, I learned about what the maids of honor and bridesmaids should do and not do to make the wedding as memorable as can be for both the bride and the groom.
Do’s
- Do what the bride wants! She is going through a lot of pressure trying to get things done.
- Do give opinions and ideas! Sometimes the bride gets too overwhelmed about the wedding that she can’t really think. So if she likes the ideas, she just might use them and she’ll thank you later.
- Do go shopping! Shopping relieves a girl’s stress by making her feel so confident and content that words just can’t describe! Plus, it’s the best time to bond!
- Do bring up the good memories because it’s going to be the last week you guys will spend living together so why not make it fun and memorable?
- Do go to the nail salon and get yourself a manicure and/or pedicure. They are so fun and it tends to calm your nerves before the big day! You do have to look your best; it’s kind of a big deal!
- Lastly, reassure the bride that everything will turn out fine and that the butterflies in her stomach will soon leave; the butterflies are only normal!
Don’ts
- Don’t argue with her on her last day! I know it will be hard trying to defend yourself or whatever the case is, but if you’re right then sooner or later she’ll realize it!
- If she acts like a complete Bridezilla, don’t go against her and just remember it’s temporary.
- Don’t go overboard with the ideas and don’t be too opinionated. Remember you are there to help; you’re not the one getting married!
- Don’t go shopping overboard. There are a lot of wonderfully comfortable and cute clothes out there, but you have to remember to put the bride right on track and get the things she needs for the wedding.
- Don’t bring up bad things from the past, you guys should talk about it or just move on from it completely!
- Don’t worry about money, spend it all! There are only a couple of times in a lifetime that allow you to do that!
- Don’t be questioning the bride whether or not she’s making a right or wrong choice in marrying the guy. They chose each other so don’t doubt them at all!